I remember looking back at my infertility journey a few years in and wondering who I am. Who had I become? How had I changed so much that I don’t recognize the woman staring back at me?
I can’t justify the losses, especially the loss of my second son, but I know what I had to endure brought me the family that I have now. Almost going bankrupt because we spent so much on fertility treatments sucked! I can’t explain how unfair it is that we have to pay money to have children when so many of our friends and family members don’t. But, it was how it was meant to happen.
What I realized over time, and through lots and lots of therapy, was that I had no reason to be ashamed for changing. After all, if we are not growing, we are dying, no? Being a former people pleaser, the fact that she called me out as having changed shook me because, until that moment, I thought that staying the same was the goal.
Problem ➡ Roadblock ➡ Research ➡ Pivot ➡ Success
No matter what situation I have found myself in throughout my adult life – job loss, finding my soul-mate, infertility, 135 day NICU stay, breast-cancer, getting coverage for expensive meds for me or my children and so much more – has followed the path above.
I literally didn’t realize that it was mother’s day until somebody mentioned it yesterday. I think mother’s day is going to feel a little bit different this year, whether you’re a mother or not. I am a mother for those of you who don’t know that, but I remember when I wasn’t and how hard this day was. Now more than ever, it is so important to be doing what you need to do for your own mental health during this time. Basically, we’re living through a quarantine, your cycles have been canceled, you’ve been having trouble getting pregnant and now you have to deal with mother’s day on Sunday!
She debated sharing her own story with all of the posts circulating about Infertility Awareness Week, especially in light of having had a baby last week, but this is one I knew needed to be shared and that would encourage us all in our journey. Some might look...
I am talking about “The One”. I am talking about finding the doctor that you know in your gut is the one who will bring you that baby. Since you can’t make said baby the old fashioned way, that doctor is the next best thing. You need to search for the perfect match the same way you searched for your partner.
Are you scared of having multiples? I find that there are 2 kinds of people…. Those who actually want their cycle to produce multiples and those who are adamant that they don’t. There actually might be a third who secretly hope this happens to them too. I think this...
I know first hand how hard “YOU” time is between home schooling, working from home, taking care of your family and pets and keeping your house clean and un-cluttered. I’m speaking to myself as much as I am talking to you when I say, find at least a half hour a day daily. It is crucial to have quiet or to do something you enjoy especially now.
I have been marinating on this post for weeks. I want to be honest with you, but at the same time I don’t want you to worry about your future past your journey. Ultimately I know that there are a lot of you out there that need to hear this so if I can help...