What I realized over time, and through lots and lots of therapy, was that I had no reason to be ashamed for changing. After all, if we are not growing, we are dying, no? Being a former people pleaser, the fact that she called me out as having changed shook me because, until that moment, I thought that staying the same was the goal.

I literally didn’t realize that it was mother’s day until somebody mentioned it yesterday. I think mother’s day is going to feel a little bit different this year, whether you’re a mother or not. I am a mother for those of you who don’t know that, but I remember when I wasn’t and how hard this day was. Now more than ever, it is so important to be doing what you need to do for your own mental health during this time. Basically, we’re living through a quarantine, your cycles have been canceled, you’ve been having trouble getting pregnant and now you have to deal with mother’s day on Sunday!