Loss after Infertility Part 3 – The NICU rollercoaster

The term used for a baby born between 22-27 weeks is called a “micro-preemie.” Any baby born 28-37 weeks is called a preemie. Olive Avery Rich was born on July 18th, 2011, over 16 weeks early for her November 11th due date. In the Jewish religion, the number 18 is important as it signifies life. […]

Loss after Infertility (Pt. 2) – How to deal with the aftermath.

When you have a baby after a miscarriage, it’s called a “Rainbow Baby.” My son Alef was a Rainbow Baby but, did you know that when one twin passes away that the baby is called a Sunset Baby? Alef was a Rainbow and then a Sunset. I never heard of this until recently, but it describes that loss perfectly. The sun sets on all the hopes, wishes, and dreams you had for them. When what was supposed to be my Rainbow turned into a Sunset, I was numb. The other twin who lives is called a Sunrise Baby, and I have one of those too. Part 3 will be all about her; I hope you will read the final chapter to learn more. 

Loss after Infertility (Pt. 1): Listen to your gut when you’re pregnant…

There aren’t many regrets I have in life, but the one I do have is major. I regret not listening to my gut about going away while I was 20 weeks pregnant with my twins. Twins that took over 4 years to conceive after 15 ART treatments and 5 miscarriages. As you can imagine, there was a lot physically, mentally, and financially we had invested in those babies. This regret comes wrapped up with lots of could have/should have, longing and guilt. I have had time and therapy to work out these feelings, but to some degree, they will always be there.